This has come up in responses to another post and I thought I would post my personal feelings on the topic. This might sound weird, but I am an anti-abortion pro-choice person. I know that sounds like an oxymoron and may very well be, but to me it makes sense and maybe after hearing my views you will understand where I stand on the issue. I would never have an abortion. It would never even be a consideration. BUT I don't feel my choices and decisions should affect every woman in the country or the world for that matter. These are personal choices and should remain as such. I would never condemn another woman for having an abortion as I don't know what is going on in their life at that time and it has to be one of the hardest decisions a woman would ever have to make.
If you are thinking how would she know I can answer that from personal experience. At 24 I was pregnant, but not in a position to give the child a good and secure home. I could have had an abortion, but as I said for me that was a moral choice and I couldn't do it. I chose to have the child and place her in adoption, to give another family a chance to have a child. When she turned 18 she contacted me and we have been in touch, as friends, ever since. First letters, audio tapes, and now we email. She thanked me for giving her such a wonderful family and a chance at a better life. But that was my personal choice. There was a bumper sticker at one time that said... don't want an abortion? don't have one! and that spoke for me.
I don't agree with groups marching on so-called abortion clinics or family life clinics because they don't agree with abortions. At the same time I don't agree with another woman trying to convince another to have an abortion just because she can! That makes no sense to me either. I believe in choice and there are more than one choice. Abortion is one, but so is adoption and so is keeping and raising the child. But no one person, no one political party, no one organization can speak for every woman in America.
So, I end this with the same line I began it... I am a anti-abortion person (personally) who believes in pro-choice. Hopefully this makes some sense to others now. I think there can be pro-choice people who understand the anti-abortion side as well. I look at life from both sides now...
PS... I got this email from a woman who rates my poems, and felt I would post it here as an addendum to this missive.
Great poems. By the way, I read you blog on anti-abortion pro-choice and I loved it. I thought I was the only person in the world that felt that way. My mom had the German Measles when she was pregnant with me and in 1964 she could have had a legal abortion since it was dangerous for both of us but she chose not to. I respect that so much that I would never have an abortion and if anyone asked my opinion I would tell them the same. However, I have had many friends over the years that have had abortions, and that is not a deal breaker. I’m still their friends even though I don’t agree with their choices, but it is their choice to make. If you want to post this somewhere, feel free. Keep up with the great poems.
Lyda
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That is exactly what pro-choice means. And it is why the term is "pro-choice" and not "pro-abortion". I don't believe any woman who does not want to have an abortion should have one, and there are countries where they must, such as China. If someone is "anti-abortion" they do not want anyone, themselves or strangers, to have one. Pro-choice means that the choice is up to the woman whether or not to have one.
I also don't believe anyone should try to convince someone to have an abortion but I also don't believe in not telling a woman that that is an option.
So although we have different names for it, I think this is one place we agree.
Yes, we do agree on that issue. That doesn't happen often so maybe we should stop there :-). hugs! I'm tired and off to bed.
I agree with you 200%!
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